My friend was recently spilling the details of her cousin's relationship saga. "She's been devoted to this guy for years, and all of a sudden, he says he wants to 'take a break and decide if this is right for him,'" my friend said incredulously. The cherry on top of the sundae is that he explained he couldn't give his (kinda?) girlfriend a timeline for how long it would take to come to a decision. What's a girl to do in that kind of situation? What would you do?
I think I'd be so hurt (and my pride would be so wounded) that I'd just be like, "Let's call it. This is a breakup. No need to confuse ourselves." It's one thing for a guy to occasionally worry that it's insane to stick with one person forever. Who doesn't think about that sometimes and almost break out in a cold sweat? But actually taking a step back to decide whether he loves you enough without full-on cutting the cord isn't something I'd be willing to deal with. With that said, everyone's different! If you're in this situation and being pulled in opposite directions by your brain and heart, here are a few things to consider.
Do you know what "a break" means to both of you? You need to ask him to explicitly explain what this break would consist of. When does he expect to make his decision? What differentiates this from a breakup? Will you not talk to each other at all? For how long? Can you see other people? Because really, no one wants to be in this situation:
How much do you really love him? Were you also having doubts? Do you see yourself being with him forever? This could actually be like a "get out of jail free" card if, deep down, you weren't sure this was the right relationship for you. Don't let your shock or pride bury that feeling if that's the case.
