The approach line: "So, what are you drinking? Let me guess, Jack and Coke."
Why it works: Being playful is memorable.
Method: Be a ball buster.
Situation where it works: A party where a group of guys is standing in the corner.
The approach line: "Hey, what are you guys doing hiding back here?"
Why it works: Teasing him with a playful vibe (and a smile) breaks the ice but makes it so you're not coming on too strong.
Method: Get his opinion.
Situation: In the produce aisle at the grocery store.
The approach line: "Hey, I'm cooking up a stir fry tonight. What do you think: baby corn or regular corn?"
Why it works: Men (and all people, really) love to share their opinion. And be sure to ask a question like the above, rather than a simple yes/no question, so that you're engaging in a discussion of your opinions, even if it's about something silly.
Method: Fall back on a classic standby.
Where it works: Anywhere
The approach line: "Hi, how are you?"
Why it works: Because you'll do it! It's better to go with something simple and get it done, rather than overthink it and walk away empty handed.
Feeling inspired to test out one of these approaches? I hope so. Feeling nervous and shy still? Here are three of Adam's tips to help give you a push:
Socially warm up by working the room. Like stretching before a workout, give your brain time to get in the social flow when you spot a guy you want to talk to. Walk around the room, chat up people who are unintimidating, and by the time you initiate conversation with the hot guy, you'll be less nervous.Smile. Smile. Smile! Body language and your general vibe are incredibly important. When you're smiling and indicating your general happiness, you're communicating that your life is fun and you want to bring fun people into it, and people will respond well to that.Just go for it already! You wouldn't want a guy creepily checking you out for twenty minutes instead of just coming up to you already, right? Right. And guys feel the same way. So don't be a creeper: make eye contact, smile, and when he smiles back, make your move following the advice above.
For more tips from Adam, check out his free e-book, "The Top 5 Reasons Why Quality Guys are Not Approaching You" Good luck and happy approaching!
Do you ever make the first move on a guy? If so, what's your go-to approach? What has worked and hasn't worked for you?
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