If you feel self-conscious about voicing desires in bed, how can you let your partner know what you'd like?
To let your partner know what you do like, create a Passion Wheel together. Get a large blank sheet of paper and write Passion Wheel at the top, then draw a big circle in the center of the paper and divide it up into 10 parts like a pie. Take turns writing down 10 passionate activities inside your Passion Wheel, 5 for you and 5 for your partner. Here are some hints: kissing, role-playing, g-spot exploration, erotic talk, sexual massage, oral sex, prostate massage, quickies, anal sex and intercourse. Once a day take turns choosing at least one activity from your Passion Wheel to keep your relationship passionate.
How can you make your partner understand that self-consciousness or shyness in bed isn't a response to something they've done or not done?
By praising them on things they do in bed that feel good, even if you just say, "that feels so good." There is nothing sexier than sexual confidence so don't let your partner know that you are shy or self-conscious in bed because they will interpret that by thinking that you don't like sex, you don't like your body or you don't like them. Get over your shyness by learning how to please yourself, loving and accepting your own body, taking full responsibility for your pleasure and orgasm.
Thank you Dr. Cadell!
Tell me dears, do you ever feel shy in bed? Do you ever feel uncomfortable about taking the lead in the bedroom or about voicing a desire to your partner? Think you'll give any of Dr. Cadell's tips a try?
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