Moms always want the best for their daughters, but I think this mom went a little too far…
Writes Jeena:
"I love my mom. We're so close, she's more like a best friend to me. And she likes my boyfriend a lot, too, which is great because I hope he gives me a proposal one day. But he and I are only together for about a year, so we're in no rush to get engaged. My mom, on the other hand, seems to want a wedding sooner rather than later. In fact, she bought me wedding magazines for my birthday, had me open the gift in front of my boyfriend, and then asked him, Will she be needing these soon?' My boyfriend's a great guy, but I'm worried if she keeps this up, he'll get scared off. What should I do?"
Here's what I think:
The good news is that no great guy will run away because of a meddling mother. Then again, no great guy should be subjected to that much pressure to propose. So it's time to have a serious chat with your mom. Luckily, you two are close, so having a heart-to-heart won't be out of character for your relationship. I know you don't want to hurt her feelings, but this is no time to shy away from the subject at hand.
Tell her how much you appreciate her looking out for you and how fortunate you feel to have her be such an advocate for you. And then tell her that her behavior on your birthday made you uncomfortable and that you'd appreciate it if she doesn't mention weddings or getting engaged in your boyfriend's presence again. Explain that you're thrilled with the state of your current relationship, and you're thrilled she likes your boyfriend, but you hope that she can be happy with how things are for now because you and your guy are. While it'll always be her job to love and protect you, you're an adult in a solid adult relationship that needs to progress naturally, not with prodding from anyone. Ask her to trust you to get out of the relationship when it stops being what you want.
