The first few dates with a person you have tons of chemistry with are loads of fun. One reader is having an absolutely amazing time with a new fellow but she's worried about coming across as too available.
Writes our anonymous reader:
I've gone on plenty of dates, but never really felt anything with a guy beyond date #3. Except for now. I REALLY like this guy that asked me out (second date ended with us making out on the couch at his place! Woohoo!) but I'm wondering -- how long do I really have to wait to ask to see him again? Is there really a rule about that anymore? My fear is of driving him away by being "too available" But I like this guy! Why can't I just hang out with him and not wait in between dates? What do I do?!
And here's what I think:
Can I just say, making out is the best? So hooray for you and your lucky date! Now about this dilemma of yours:
I've always been troubled by the rules about waiting to contact a person you're interested in. I get that they were probably created to help daters from looking too available. But today, with so many forms of instant communication (IM, email, Twitter, Facebook, etc) I don't think they carry the weight they once did. Sure, it's probably not the best idea to call a person five minutes after you receive their phone number, but after you've gone out on a few dates (which you have) and gotten a little frisky together (which you have), I say, throw those rules out the window.
You're into him, he's into you and you two clearly have a good time together. It's perfectly reasonable to give him a ring a day or two after your couch session and see if he'd like to get together again.
