Step Three: Breathe Through It
The third step to becoming more fearless in relationships is to check your breath. When you're stuck in fear, judgment, and attack, you're likely not breathing. Your breath alone can smooth over a negative moment and in an instant change the energy between you and another person. Whenever you find yourself dealing with a conflict or fight in your relationship, use your breath as a powerful tool to shift your energy back to positive. I practice Kundalini yoga and love this teaching from one of the masters, Yogi Bhajan:
*"In any communication, or in any situation which you cannot confront because it is exaggerating, hot, or aggressive, just change your breath. Breathe through the lips instead of through the nostrils. Exhale always through the nostrils. Inhale through the rolled lips and make it slow and long. It will slow everything as required. It will increase your sensitivity. It will give you 10 times more projection over the person you are talking to."*Practice this breathing exercise in difficult moments and you'll see how you can proactively change the energy between you and another person.
NEXT: The Daily Commitment to Growth ยป
Real change comes with a true desire to change. Therefore, to bring more love into your relationships, it's important that you make a daily commitment to change. Try starting each day with an affirmation or prayer that focuses you on the positive and sets you up to win. You may say, "Today I intend to bring more love into my relationships." Or, "Today I will be fearless and free in my relationships." This simple shift can change your entire attitude, energy, and life.
Use these three tools to begin a journey of new, positive perceptions. Open up to the infinite possibilities that you can be fearless in your relationships and you can enjoy more love. Your peace, love, and connection are a choice you make.
