There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:
Q: After four months of a great relationship, why would a guy just stop calling? Seriously, everything "appeared" to be going great, but now he stopped calling, won't return my calls or texts. What's going on?
Sadly, I think you know what's going on. He's done with the relationship and too chicken to tell you. It's particularly rough, because he seemed like the perfect guy. Now he's showing his true colors: he's a coward who figures he'll just pull a disappearing act and let things work themselves out on their own. He figures, she'll get over me eventually. As Jay-Z says, on to the next one. He might have commitment issues, or a fear of abandonment which causes him to bail on a good thing prematurely. Neither of which excuses the fact that he's a massive tool. You're better off without him.
Chances are, you aren't the first woman he's done this to. And you won't be the last. Eventually, someone will do the same thing to him and shatter his heart into a million pieces. At some point, his past mistakes will catch up with him. Maybe he'll learn a lesson and stop bailing on relationships with zero warning, or maybe he'll wind up alone and bitter. Either way, you won't have to deal with the fallout.
As you said, everything "appeared" to be great, and maybe it was for a while. Eventually, though, he began to get doubts, and instead of voicing them like a human being with a shred of decency, he decided to cut and run.
Think of it this way: at least he didn't all of a sudden vanish on your wedding night, or leave you with several kids. Four months is far too long into the relationship to just pick up and leave without even so much as a goodbye email, but at least it wasn't four years. Be thankful he revealed himself to be a Bilbo Douchebaggins after only a few months, and didn't waste any more of your time.
