4. Use your breath.Have you or your partner get as close as possible to the anus and use heavy, warm breathing to stimulate the area and perineum. O’Reilly recommends alternating between exhales and inhales for a mix of sensations.
5. Get wet.O’Reilly recommends gently flattening your tongue against your partner’s anus and then breathing air over the wet spot you’ve created for a mix of warm and cool sensations.
6. Use your digits.Lube up your finger (making sure your nails are trimmed beforehand), and use it to lightly trace the pucker of your partner’s anus. This can be especially hot during oral, Laino says.
7. Try the tongue.Use your tongue to trace a slow line from the center of your partner’s spine down to his anus, O’Reilly says. Then, point your tongue tightly and slide it inside.
8. Do gentle “kisses.”Use two fingers to gently tap your S.O.’s anus, increasing the intensity, O’Reilly recommends. Then, alternate between these “smacks” and wet kisses.
9. Whip out your vibe.Put your vibe on low, and use it to play around the anal area during oral or sex, Kerner says, working your way closer to the anus as you go.
Of course, anal play goes both ways. To get your partner to do it to you, Laino recommends telling them that you have a fantasy of trying anal play and explaining what would feel hot for you. You can also ask for it in the heat of sexual play as a form of dirty talk.
Ultimately, Kerner says it really depends on what kind of relationship you have and how sexually adventurous your partner is. If you know it takes a little to get them to try new things, it’s probably best to say you’re into anal play before actually attempting it. Then, ask for feedback (e.g., “how does that feel?”) in the moment and give it if he’s doing anal play on you.
If you’re thinking of trying anal play but have been putting it off, experts say you should probably just do it already. “It’s a really fun area,” Kerner says.
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